Stop telling women that we should find ourselves beautiful and that we should love ourselves when you are standing right there, judging us on how our knees look in short skirts and how prominent our boobs are in a sweater and how much makeup we are or are not wearing.
Instead of us working harder on “love your body” and “find your inner beauty”, the rest of the world should be working harder on “stop telling women their bodies are a shameful place to live but that if they’re strong enough, they will learn to embrace that shame.”
This is my body. It’s not “beautiful”. I don’t “love it”. I don’t have to. I don’t have to have any strong feelings about my body. And whatever feelings I do have are not somehow invalid if they’re not glowing reviews."
Stop saying lol when it’s not fucking funny. Lol is not a fucking period and you don’t need to put it at the end of every single sentence.
One more. Tim’s comment isn’t that bad (though his shock that there are good looking girls on our campus does piss me off). It’s dear Bobby who I want to shame with this one. Thank you for letting me know what a ‘real girl’ is. I had no clue until you informed me and I’m so glad I’m a ‘hottie-tottie’ exactly the way I am!
“All girls are beautiful and shouldn’t judge themselves!”
*proceeds to judge and objectify women using a fucking numerical scale*
you ever thought that maybe the reason girls say they’re fine when they’re not, or they’re not mad when they are, is because the second they show any semblance of emotion they’re written off as hysterical bitches that are probably on their period?
THE FUCKING DA VINCI CODE HAS BEEN CRACKED
"Women who are too sexual aren’t taken seriously, and women who aren’t sexual enough aren’t taken seriously. Women who are conventionally attractive get valued solely for their sexual appeal; women who aren’t conventionally attractive get dismissed for their lack of it. Women who are conventionally attractive are assumed to be dumb bimbos; women who aren’t conventionally attractive are assumed to be either bitter or desperate. Women who are conventionally attractive get trivialized; women who aren’t conventionally attractive get treated with pity and contempt. We can’t win."
If you’re pretty, you’re an object. If you’re ugly, you’re a worthless object.
We really really really can’t win.
"It’s a monumental overask to expect women to be gentle with the egos of men who only feigned friendship in order to get laid."
"Suppose a man makes unwanted social advances to a woman in, let’s say, a restaurant or theatre, and she eventually has to tell him loudly or angrily to get lost. She is the one who will be perceived as rude, hostile, aggressive, and obnoxious. His verbal aggression and invasiveness are accepted and expected; her rudeness (or mere curtness) in getting rid of him is noticed and condemned. One of our great myths is that a “real lady” can and should handle any difficulty, defuse any assault, without ever raising her voice or losing her manners. Female rudeness or violence in resistance to male aggression has often been taken to prove that the woman was not a lady in the first place, and therefore deserved no respect from the aggressor or sympathy from others."
D.A. Clarke, “A Woman With a Sword” (via foodbeersexwhatever)
“well we couldve been friends if u werent such a fuckin misogynist”
see also: i would have hooked up with you if you weren’t so sexist
"Before I die, I want to be somebody’s favorite hiding place, the place they can put everything they know they need to survive, every secret, every solitude, every nervous prayer, and be absolutely certain I will keep it safe. I will keep it safe."
Andrea Gibson (via sadexistences)